Let’s be honest: finding a church is hard enough when you do believe. When you're unsure, skeptical, or somewhere in between, it can feel downright impossible.
Maybe you grew up in church and walked away. Maybe faith never really made sense to you. Maybe you want to believe, but you're carrying more doubt than certainty right now.
If that’s you—you’re not alone. And you’re not disqualified.
It’s possible to find a church that makes room for your questions, your story, and your slow, messy journey toward (or back to) faith. Here are a few things to look for as you search.
1. Be honest about where you are
You don’t need to clean up your beliefs before walking through the doors. You don’t need to pretend to be more certain, more spiritual, or more put together than you are. If you're searching, wrestling, or even a little cynical—that's okay.
The right church won’t expect you to have everything figured out. It will create space for you to be where you actuallyare, not where you think you "should" be.
2. Look for a place where questions are welcomed
There’s a difference between a church that tolerates questions and one that welcomes them.
Pay attention to whether doubt is treated as weakness or curiosity is seen as a gift. A healthy spiritual community won’t shame you for asking hard questions—it will honor them.
3. Look for a church that takes Scripture seriously—but not simplistically
What a church believes matters—but how it engages those beliefs matters too.
Look for a community that teaches the Bible with honesty, humility, and care. A church that takes Scripture seriously won’t use it as a weapon or a shortcut—but as a story that leads us into grace, truth, and transformation.
You want a place where the Bible isn’t flattened into formulas, but opened up with curiosity, context, and compassion.
4. Try it more than once
Your first visit might feel awkward. That’s normal. Give it a few weeks.
Sometimes it takes time to get a feel for the rhythm, the people, and the heart of a community. You’re not auditioning, and neither are they. Just give yourself permission to keep showing up.
5. Look for signs of grace
Is there space for people to struggle, to be honest, to not have it all together?
Do people treat each other with kindness? Do they show up for one another in quiet, unflashy ways?
A grace-filled church won’t just talk about love—it will live it.
If you’re searching, you’re not alone
At REUNION, we’re trying to be the kind of church where skeptics, seekers, and spiritually curious people can belong—even before they believe.
No pressure. No perfect answers. Just a place to bring your questions, your doubts, and your whole self.
If you’re in the Boston area and looking for a church but not sure you believe, we’d love to see you sometime. Really.
